Why women date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded theme that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on since ancient times. Extramarital relationships can be fraught with problems, cause sadness, and other troubles. In addition you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, funds, age difference, spiritual upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating for married.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are men seeking an affair. I am sure generally though it is just the human nature, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
In nature we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us flee the real world for a small period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to switch the longing on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos society has erected against affairs. For many people the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the rage of not only their family, but society too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your spouse or anybody else? You will need to minimize the risk you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major grouping, very big in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they feel comfy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your finances are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair from time to time solves the trouble while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Ignoring, sadly this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, generally the husband is sexually neglecting his female for a number of reasons. As a male I actually appreciate you guys neglecting your wives and making them available to us men of romance, making them “milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, could be caring is disappeared, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed distantly, our relulas interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.